Turning the Page

When you get up in the morning, think of what a priceless privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to learn, to love – and then make the day count!

 

In the game of life, we all receive a unique set of unexpected limitations and variables in the field of play.  The question is: How will you respond to the hand you’ve been dealt?  You can either focus on the lack thereof or empower yourself to play the game sensibly and resourcefully, making the very best of every outcome as it arises, even when it’s heartbreaking and hard to accept.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the mind is our biggest battleground.  It’s where our expectations always get the best of us. And if we allow these thoughts and cravings to dwell in our minds, they will succeed in robbing us of peace, joy, and ultimately our lives.  We will think ourselves into deep heartache and even depression.  It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do for a career…life happens to everyone.  Mental health issues has no stereotype, it does not discriminate and it has no warning signs.

Truthfully, there’s so much about life that we can’t control, it makes no sense to waste all our energy on these things and then blatantly neglect everything we CAN control.

When life has to be a certain way in order to be good enough for you, you instantly close yourself off from all the real and present opportunities available – you spend all your mental energy resisting life, rather than making the best of it.

And sadly, this is how the vast majority of the human population lives – stuck in a perpetual cycle of resistance.
When you consciously choose to let go of the way it “should” be, you free your mind to deal with life’s unexpected changes, challenges and chaos in the most effective way possible…

Closing the door, completing the chapter, turning the page, etc. – it doesn’t matter what you title it…what matters is that you find the strength to leave in the past those parts of your life that are over, so you can better attend to the present.

Of course, knowing this and actually living a lifestyle that reinforces this truth are two very different things.  It is NOT easy; it’s a journey that is traveled one day at a time.  Things will happen that are unexpected, undesirable, and uncontrollable.  But you can always choose to take the next tiniest step.  Be brave and take it…

The problem is that we’re holding on too tightly to ideals that don’t match reality.  We have subconsciously set up expectations in our minds of what we want other people to be, what we want ourselves to be, and what our work and relationships and life “should” be like.  Our attachment to our ideals stirs anxiety in our minds and stress in our lives.

I’m going to suggest a simple meditation for whenever you feel stress, resistance, frustration, worry, and all the other draining mindsets that fuel drama in your life:

Close your eyes.  Take a deep breath, hold it, slowly release.  Do this two more times.
Focus, carefully, on what you’re feeling.  Don’t numb it with distractions, but instead bring it further into your awareness.

Turn to it, and welcome it.  Smile, and give what you feel your full, thoughtful attention.

Notice the feeling in your body.  Where is the feeling situated, and what unique qualities does it have?

Notice the tension in your body, and also in your mind, that arises from this feeling.

Try relaxing the tense parts of your body.  Then relax the tense parts of your mind.  Do so by focusing on your breath: Close your eyes, breathe in and feel it, breathe out and feel it, again and again, until you feel more relaxed.

….And then, turn the page….

 

Don’t close the book forever ~ Barb Mather